| Writer |
| Question |
 |
 |
|
anonymous
|
Posted on: May 25, 2007
dating ettiquite ?
I have met women over the Internet and through ads who seem
to believe that it is a requirement that the man take the
woman to a restaurant even before they have laid eyes on
each other.
Is this correct etiquette? If I meet a woman
over the Internet and speak to her on the phone, would it be
improper on my part if we met over some coffee and cake, or
pizza and soda, on the first occasion? My point is, why
spend so much money on a blind date (not to mention all that
time), if I find no chemistry with her, or if she finds none
with me? Wouldn't we both be uncomfortable and just faking
it?
And if a woman suggests a restaurant for the first
encounter, would it be right for me to suggest something
less expensive -- without sounding like I am something less
than a gentleman? I've heard stories of women who meet men
for the first time, and know they did not like them, but
"take" him for whatever they can on the date, and then say,
"Sorry, I'm not interested."
Please advise me on this
issue. Thank you in advance.
alan
| Rate this post |
Magazine Score
|
|
|
|
 |
 |
|
| Writer |
| Answer |
|
|
tavish42
56 F
94 posts
|
Posted on: May 27, 2007
Re: dating ettiquite ?
actually, i think a coffee shop is a great place for a first
meet. it is non-threatening, relatively private (no, please
don't suggest Tim Hortons...try a real coffee place like
Mocha cafe instead), and doesn't imply obligation for the
woman (you spent a bundle on me, now i HAVE to put out)or
bankrupt the guy.
if a restaurant seems to make more
sense and if you feel you HAVE to pick up the bill, why not
suggest a breakfast meet? breakfast is relatively
inexpensive and has the added bonus of leaving the bulk of
the day free...to explore each other if all goes well or for
yourself if the chemistry isn't right.
the whole idea
of a first meet to get to know each other, not check out the
finances or put the guy on peanut & jam sandwiches for the
rest of the month or take hime for a ride financially. a
coffee (perhaps a dessert too??) or breakfast and a walk on
the pier or along city streets is perfectly acceptable. now
if you met at noon and are still walking around and talking
by the time the supper rolls around, that is perhaps another
story. if that is the case, make your own decisions....
| Rate this post |
Magazine Score
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
| Writer |
| Answer |
|
|
anonymous
|
Posted on: Jun 12, 2007
Re: dating ettiquite ?
I met my lady online, and we exchanged emails, and talked
a couple of times. We got to know each other, after a couple
of months, and decided to meet for a pizza at a town,
roughly halfway for both of us. We both were a little
nervous I guess...but she had gotten to know me well enough,
that she told me, that she wanted to give me a big hug when
we met, if things went well...maybe we would share a few
kisses. When the day came, we met in the parking lot...I got
my hug as promised. Maybe it was a case of magic between
us...but the hug became a kiss, that neither one of us
wanted to break...next thing I knew she told me..."let's go
somewhere, I'm not really all that hungry!" The next few
hours were spent in the country...in each other's arms,
after shedding our clothes. What a day! Yes, I know this is
an exception more than the rule...but the only lesson I can
give here...is get to know the other before you meet. We are
together a year and a half later, and I love her dearly.
Just goes to show, sometimes things just take their own
course. Good Luck. 
| Rate this post |
Magazine Score
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
 |
 |
 |
| need2try73 |
M |
49 |
Jul 13, 2008 |
| Ladyandsissy |
C |
59 |
Jun 22, 2007 |
| top2tail |
M |
57 |
Jun 12, 2007 |
| lover4onlyu |
M |
37 |
May 30, 2007 |
| kenworth072 |
M |
43 |
May 29, 2007 |
| gvn1975 |
M |
35 |
May 28, 2007 |
| sexykitten4onlyu |
F |
24 |
May 27, 2007 |
| shadi123456987 |
M |
32 |
May 27, 2007 |
| kady0307 |
F |
25 |
May 27, 2007 |
| bleck |
M |
39 |
May 27, 2007 |
|
|
|
 |
|
 |
|
